Adoptee Recommended Best Adoption Books for Children

    Wondering how to tell your adopted child they are adopted? There are a plethora of adoption books written for children to comfortably understand what defines family and love. Many of these books are written by adoptees. One of the best ways to introduce adoption to your child is by reading books to your kids.

    Start reading to your child as early as they come into your lives. Read to your child every day even if they don’t understand word for word what is happening in the book about their adoption story. The goal is to create a setting where your child will begin to ask questions.

    Besides reading being fundamentally great for your child, as an adoptive parent, it allows you to bond with your child and to show your adopted child that you are with them on this journey and they are not alone. They can trust you and believe that you love them and care for every part of their life including where they come from and their biological family.

    I understand every family is busy and has so much going on, however, I cannot stress to adoptive parents how important it is that their child knows their truth. Adoption-talk needs to be continuous; not just one time.

    I respect the fact that my adoptive mother and I can sit down at any time and talk about my adoption or adoption in general. I love her so much for that. It has shown me the type of love adoption provides because she never made my adoption about her; it was all about me and she was comfortable in her skin as my ‘adoptive’ mom even though to me, she is my mom.

    My favorite Best Selling Books on Adoption for Children


     A Mother for Choco – Ages 2-5 

    Adoption Books for Children

    Family is about love no matter how different parents and children may be, adopted or not.

    Choco wishes he had a mother, but who could she be? He sets off to find her, asking all kinds of animals, but he doesn’t meet anyone who looks just like him. He doesn’t even think of asking Mrs. Bear if she’s his mother-but then she starts to do just the things a mommy might do. And when she brings him home, he meets her other children-a piglet, a hippo, and an alligator-and learns that families can come in all shapes and sizes and still fit together (Amazon).


    And Tango Makes Three – Ages 2-5 


    Children's books for adoptees


    At the penguin house at the Central Park Zoo, two penguins named Roy and Silo were a little bit different from the others. But their desire for a family was the same. And with the help of a kindly zookeeper, Roy and Silo got the chance to welcome a baby penguin of their very own.

    In time for the tenth anniversary of And Tango Makes Three, this Classic Board Book edition is the perfect size for small hands (Amazon).



    The Family Book – Ages 3-6



    The Family Book celebrates the love we feel for our families and all the different varieties they come in. Whether you have two moms or two dads, a big family or a small family, a clean family or a messy one, Todd Parr assures readers that no matter what kind of family you have, every family is special in its own unique way.

    Parr’s message about the importance of embracing our differences is delivered in a playful way. With his trademark bold, bright colors and silly scenes, this book will encourage children to ask questions about their own families. Perfect for young children just beginning to read, The Family Book is designed to encourage early literacy, enhance emotional development, celebrate multiculturalism, promote character growth, and strengthen family relationships  (Amazon)



    And That’s Why She’s My Mama Ages 3-7



    What is a Mama? A mama is someone who is always there for you. She makes you your favorite food, takes you to the park, and kisses your boo-boos better. Some mamas didn’t hold you in their belly, but they will forever hold you in their hearts. Mamas come in all different shapes, colors, and ages, but they all have one thing in common. They love you! Enjoy the multiple characters in this children’s story which explores the loving tasks of what makes a mama. (Amazon)


    Over the Moon: An Adoption Tale – Ages 4-8



    An affirming story about international adoption, based on the author’s own experience with her daughter.

    A magical, reassuring story of one adoptive family’s beginnings, told in words and pictures that are just right for the youngest child. (Amazon)




    I’ve Loved You Since Forever – Ages 4-8





    I’ve Loved You Since Forever is a celebratory and poetic testament to the timeless love felt between parent and child. This beautiful picture book is inspired by Today show co-anchor Hoda Kotb’s heartwarming adoption of her baby girl, Haley Joy.


    Stella Luna – Ages 4-7 

    Best Adoption Children's Book
    While out searching for food, fruit bat Stellaluna and her mother are attacked by a vicious owl. Stellaluna is separated from Mother Bat and taken in by a family of birds where she must put aside her bat habits to fit in with her new family. But one fateful flight when she is separated from her adoptive siblings, Stellaluna is reunited with her bat family and learns that even though we’re different, we’re very much the same (Amazon).
    The Bunny family has adopted a new son—a wolf! Dot is the only one who seems to notice, and she’s not so excited to have a new brother. But she’ll soon learn that adding to her family isn’t so bad, and having a sibling can even be kind of fun! This adoption book is perfect for families to introduce new siblings and share a growing family. (BookRiot) Amazon

    In asking her parents to tell her again about the night of her birth, a young girl shows that it is a cherished tale she knows by heart.Tell Me Again About the Night I Was Born is a unique, exuberant story about adoption and about the importance of a loving family (Amazon).



    Carlotta is being adopted tomorrow; as she anxiously waits for her new family, she wonders what they’ll be like and imagines all kinds of wonderful families–astronauts, pastry chefs, even pirates–and soon discovers that they are all that and more… they are the best family in the world! (Amazon)
    It’s Rakhi, the Hindu holiday special to brothers and sisters, and Arun wishes he had a sister with whom to celebrate. Soon it looks as if his wish will come true. His parents are going to adopt a baby girl named Asha. She is coming all the way from India, where Arun’s dad was born. The family prepares for Asha’s arrival, not knowing it will be almost a year until they receive governmental approval to bring Asha home. Arun is impatient and struggles to accept the long delay, but as time passes he finds his own special ways to build a bond with his sister, who is still halfway around the world. With warmth and honesty, this tender story taps into the feelings of longing, love, and joy that adoption brings to many families. Readers will find reassurance knowing there is more than one way to become part of a loving family. (Amazon)
     Adoption Book for Children
    Mandy, a ten-year-old orphan, dreams of a place to call her own. Escaping over the orphanage wall to explore the outside world, Mandy discovers a tiny deserted cottage in the woods. All through the spring, summer, and fall, Mandy works to make it truly hers. Sometimes she “borrows” things she needs from the orphanage. Sometimes, to guard her secret, she even lies. Then, one stormy night at the cottage, Mandy gets sick, and no one knows how to find her—except a special friend she didn’t know she had (Amazon).
    The second book in Reynolds’s Track series, Patina is the narrator in her own story. She runs for her school’s track team, but she doesn’t just run to win. She runs to escape—escape the mean kids at her new school, escape the fact that she and her sister can’t live with their mom anymore, escape everything. Reynolds delivers another show-stopper in this children’s book about adoption. (Bookriot) (Amazon)


    Imani is adopted, and she’s ready to search for her birth parents. But when she discovers the diary her Jewish great-grandmother wrote chronicling her escape from Holocaust-era Europe, Imani begins to see family in a new way.

    Imani knows exactly what she wants as her big bat mitzvah gift: to find her birth parents. She loves her family and her Jewish community in Baltimore, but she has always wondered where she came from, especially since she’s black and almost everyone she knows is white. Then her mom’s grandmother–Imani’s great-grandma Anna–passes away, and Imani discovers an old journal among her books. It’s Anna’s diary from 1941, the year she was twelve and fled Nazi-occupied Luxembourg alone, sent by her parents to seek refuge in Brooklyn, New York. Anna’s diary records her journey to America and her new life with an adoptive family of her own. And as Imani reads the diary, she begins to see her family, and her place in it, in a whole new way. (Amazon)

    What books have you read or recommend?
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    Jessenia Parmer
    Jessenia Parmer
    I'm Jessenia. I am an adult adoptee with 10 years of experience advocating and fostering relationships with adoptees, and over five years of experience teaching adoptive parents how to have a successful and genuine relationship with their adopted child.


    1. Amen! It is so bizarre to me that anyone would keep this info in the dark! My parents read about adoption and talked with me about it from such a young age that I have no idea when I "figured out" I was adopted. That's one question I'm frequently asked when I bring up my adoption to someone new: "When did you find out?" I'm proud to say that I never "found out" because it was just always a universal truth to me! The sky is blue, the grass is green, I was adopted as a baby.

      I think people are afraid and end up in a situation where they're afraid to tell after making the mistake of not telling immediately. Could that be what's happened in some situations? They don't bring the child up on the idea and then they're afraid to "break" this very life-changing news? Possibly, but all of this could be avoided by upfront honesty!

      • Hi Emily! I love how you put it, "the sky is blue, the grass is green, I was adopted as a baby". It should always be a part of our lives from the very beginning. It is so damaging to our spirit and our lives when we find out years later or as adults.

        There shouldnt be anything to figure out as you said. It should simply be something you have always known. Good for your parents! Send them a huge hug for me for doing it right! LOL. Makes my day when I hear stories like this!

        I think it is very possible that adoptive parents fear the backlash from their adopted child after waiting for so long to tell their child. However, I won't call it a mistake. In my eyes it is more their fears or personal desires that keep them from telling their child the truth. My only desire is that adoptive parents simply tell the truth from the start. It would avoid so many problems in the future.

        Thank you for sharing your thoughts and a part of your journey!

    2. Kris says:

      I agree wholeheartedly.
      Before we started out adoption journey (we are now waiting), I had a so-called "friend" pretty much demand that I never tell the child we adopt that they are adopted. Even cited an example of a teenager in his family who has no idea, even though the entire rest of the family obviously knows. Went so far as to call me selfish (I think the reasoning was that by telling I would be ruining their life). I ended the friendship right there. I just can't fathom lying or keeping a secret of that magnitude, in some attempt to re-write history. Its the child's life story to know.

      This is a part of why we are hoping for an open adoption – no secrets, no fumbling for explanations. The truth from the start.

    3. Primal Wound by Nancy Verrier a very good read re: adoption trauma. If you don't tell a child they are adopted they still feel that something is different, thus wrong and they internalize it.

    4. Unknown says:

      Thank you so much for listing these books! They look really wonderful. I wished I could have a good way to explain adoption, and I had no idea that such great books like these are already out there.

      • Hi! I am glad you enjoyed this list. Books are such a great tool! They help to break the ice. Not only that, the illustrations in the book often bring comfort to the child when sharing the story making it not sound too bad as if you were to sit your child down and try to explain it to him that way. Thank you for sharing your comment.

    5. Lizzy Sharp says:

      Do you know if there are any books/book makers who can create individualized adoption story books? We have most of the ones you listed, and we read them often. We have two little boys (both adopted), and their stories are so different… none of the books individually apply. I would love to have a fun, illustrated way for them to make sense of it as early as possible. We also have very open adoptions, so they already have relationships with their birth mothers and have special nicknames for them. We want to do everything possible to make them proud of their adoption stories and retain their individuality. I'd love some insight and suggestions!

      • Hi Lizzy! Thank you for your question. I wanted to begin by saying how awesome it is that you are in an open adoption and all sides are being celebrated. I love stories like this! Thank you for wanting to do all that you can to do adoption the right way and putting your children's needs first. I think creating/designing a book to tell your family's story is a really cool idea! I have two friends I can recommend:

        My first friend has a writing company – she is the author of a really good children's book titled, Sloan Saves the Day. She also owns a writing company that helps people tell their stories, copy writing, editing, ghost writing, resumes, anything to do with writing…she is on point and affordable. Her name is Laci Swan, she can be reached at Sharpeditorial (dot) com

        My other friend is an illustrator and blog designer. She creates these super cute designs. Her blog/portfolio can be located at maryangela(dot)in I put the "dot" in parenthesis to stop people from spamming in case u were wondering. LOL. Mary is actually doing some work for me now for this blog that I will release shortly.

        Please let me know if you have any more questions. Please keep me posted. I have never heard of anyone doing anything like this. It sounds like such an awesome idea. Who knows what make come of it!

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